Gratitude for a Positive Attitude

I was reading my devotional Jesus Calling this morning.  Today's post is about gratitude, so I have decided to blog about a few of the things that I am grateful for.

Yesterday was a long day.  I got to work around 8:30am and didn't leave until about 7:05pm.  I was not physically tired or emotionally drained!  That alone is something to shout about!  In the past, I could only work about 4 hours/day and would need to go home shortly after to rest/sleep to be more alert when my husband came home!

My supervisor gave me a really neat compliment.  She told me that I remind her of one of her friends.  She went on to say that her friend was really smart, but unpretentious and funny.  That made me feel really good, because she made her friend sound really awesome!  lol

My co-workers helped me with my work because I had a lot to do yesterday.  Most of the people that I work with are really great, and I like them a lot.  We do get things done, but we usually have a great time doing it.  There is one guy there that cracks me up!  I can be grouchy and in a really foul mood, but he can say one thing and have me laughing and that will turn my mood around instantly.

The company is growing and many times it can be hard to get access to a computer.  One of the rooms with 3 computers was open most of the day, and I was able to camp out in there and get much of what I needed done on the computer!  Not only that, I was able to access the computer with speakers and listen to some great (in my opinion) music.  It really helped to listen to that music.

I had a lot of running around after work and didn't get home until around 10:30pm.  I still wasn't tired!  I logged onto my computer and worked on a job application!  Although I didn't finish it in time to submit before the deadline, I still consider it progress because I have a complete application on file for another position that I plan to apply for, and I finally updated my resume.  I finally completed some actions regarding job hunting!!!!

I went to sleep around 12:30am and was awakened gently around 4:45am.  I don't feel groggy or anything like that.  I have some errands to run before work, so I will sign off soon.

I am just amazed at the wonderful things that God blessed me with yesterday!  I hope that today is just as great or even better!

Reporting to Spiritual Boot Camp

It is about 2:30am here.  My sleep schedule is thrown off, but I don't mind.  I like the quiet and darkness of the early, early morning.

After my last post yesterday, I was up until about 4am.  I rested for about 1 hour and then I got up and went to work.  I got sleepy when I had to do computer work (okay, I fell asleep-and lightly snored!  Oops!), but overall, the day went really well.  I wasn't dragging, I got a decent bit accomplished, and my mood was good!  It felt like God and I had an encounter last night and He enabled me to have a really good day on very little sleep.

I think that God is calling me to Himself.  It seems like anytime I try to get some support from someone, they start to disappear.  I remember when I was in college, He did the same thing.  I didn't realize what was happening though and I didn't surrender to it.  This time, I think that I know what is going on.  It is still painful and difficult, but this time I know that I need to follow through.  Maybe He is equipping me for something significant.

This might be a time of solitude that might lead to a transformation.  Maybe I will eventually live up to my potential.  For so long, I have sold myself short because of depression and not being successful.  I believe that as long as I trust God, and consistently co-labor with Him, He will enable me to be victorious, in spite of the fact that I have been camped out in the land of defeat for many, many years.  This new life may not be easy, but I believe that it will be good.

Right now, I am listening to some music and will probably have some quiet time with God before beginning some work on my life plan.

Making Positive Changes and Matters of the Heart

Writing the "Friends and Family Kinda Suck..." post really helped.  My head is clearer and I can move on to other things...

I have been thinking about making a HUGE career change.  I have been seriously thinking about scientific sales.  I like science and I like that I wouldn't be behind a desk all day.  There is potential to make a great living.  I could accelerate my financial goals, which would be GREAT.

I also realize that sales can be demanding, and I have to start taking better care of my emotional right now on order to withstand the pressure.

I have also been thinking about grad school.  I had a failed attempt a long time ago that really lowered my intellectual confidence.  Yet, I still yearn to have advanced degrees.  I thought that I had suppressed this desire, but it keeps coming up to surface.  I need to talk to God about the things that I really desire in my heart.  I hope that I can have them.

Even though Friday and Sunday were tough, Saturday was good.  I was able to map some things out regarding my goals.  I think that I will draft a 2 year plan and start making progress, even if it is small, each day.  When I talk about the things that I want in my life, I can feel a positive internal shift in my body.  I feel like a butterfly crawling out a cocoon.  It is such an awesome feeling, like I am finally reconnecting with the college version of me before the depression hit.  I feel optimistic, like good things are possible.  What an awesome feeling.

I started reading the book I bought for my Kindle app because I like the author and the Kindle edition was only $1.11.  It is titled "How to Be Happy Where You Are: Finding Fulfillment".  This book helped me to recognize my longing to complete a graduate program only by the 2nd chapter!   Very engaging and well written.  I think that I will go and read at least some of it now.  I hope that I will continue to gain clarity from it.

PBS Special on Depression

FI watched a DVD I got from Netflix about depression, called "Depression: Out of the Shadows".  Although it was hard to watch at times, I thought it was informative and really well done.  They selected a wide range of people who are being treated for depression to show that it can affect anybody.  Really interesting research into brain imaging that is leading to more effective treatments as well.  One in particular was intravenous ketamine.  The patient said that shortly after administration of the drug, he not only felt better, but he felt so good that it was as if he had never been depressed!  Groundbreaking treatment on "area 25" in the brain are helping about 55% of people with treatment resistant depression.  The whole research on area 25 is really interesting.  Apparently, this area is linked inversely to motivation and being able to carry on with living life. When area 25 is active, the prefrontal cortex activity is diminished.  When area 25 is less active, the prefrontal cortex is able to function more efficiently.  Fascinating!  I highly recommend viewing it.

My Friends and Family Kinda Suck...

This week has been tough, and it only got tougher as the week progressed.  Friday and today, Sunday, have been really difficult.  I spent most of the day with my family.  I started out the day with my brother.  Most Sundays we go to church and then run his errands.  I love my brother, but I find him to be emotionally draining.  I work to keep myself on an even keel, but he is high strung and has road rage.  He believes a lot of conspiracy theories which is a little unsettling as well for me.  After that, I went to see one of my sisters.  I enjoy spending time with her superficially and she is easy to be around in that respect.  She is not sympathetic regarding my mental health.  Many times, she doesn't even take it into account.  A few years ago, I grew deeply depressed and just stopped showing up for week.  I ended up in the hospital.  She told me that I abandoned my job.  What makes this especially difficult to take is that she was the one who had me admitted to the hospital!  Her support of my mental health issues has been inconsistent at best.  I think that she is uncomfortable with the thought of either mental illness in general (even though she worked for years at a mental hospital) or my having mental illness.  Regardless, she is uncomfortable with it, so she just doesn't acknowledge this.  I finally realized today that she does this in her own life.  When things make her uncomfortable, she buries it and distracts herself.  Finally, I went to see my niece and drop off some resources that I thought would help her.  I ended up talking to her and realized that I had become very negative.  Her own mental health is not good right now, so I should have left before I did.  I know that she is young (25 yo) but something bothered me about her views.  I really don't think that she has a very good opinion of me.  That hurts.  She does love me, but she doesn't really examine things beyond face value.
The family that I didn't see today has issues as well.  My other sister is verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry depressed, but she seems unwilling to try to get help.  She is waiting to die.  I used to talk to her very often but after I started working 40+ hours a week, I couldn't and maintain good enough mental health to work.  Heck, most of the time I was physically tired as well!  She can't really see past her own misery right now.  Her daughter is a trip and really upset me because she treated her mom, my sister, very disrepectfully.
What I realized today, is that I am feeling alone and unsupported.  I have made significant deposits into people, like my best friend and family.  Even when I was depressed, I would still try to help people by listening to them.  Now that I need that kindness, it is like people are too busy or they don't have the emotional wherewithal or worse, they attempt to make withdrawals from my depleted account.  I really don't want to shut myself off from my friends and family, but I am really hurt by lack of or extremely limited support.  I will have to get some support so that I can get back on track.  I need to find a counselor.  I also plan to distance myself from my friends and family and just have a more superficial relationship with them.  I will have to focus on other things that are more positive.  I am seriously thinking about moving to another city or even state, because being this close to my family is really painful right now.

Time to Fuel Up Emotionally!

The signs have been there, but I have not been paying attention at all.  I didn't realize I was becoming depleted until I stilled myself for morning quiet time.  It was then that it seemed my soul shouted at me that I need to eat "soul food"!  I can see it in retrospect now: overeating (for comfort), not reading anything nourishing, almost imperceptibly growing irritability, feeling overwhelmed.

I have been sleeping a lot today, but I truly need the rest.  I have only been getting about 5 hours of sleep during the week while working over 10 hours each day.  I had planned to go "balls to the wall" this weekend, but I think that am going to leisurely get some things done.  I do need to make some progress toward my goals.  After I got off from work last week, I didn't do much to advance my life.  I think that I will work around 9 hours a day so that I have more energy for my own life.  I am becoming frustrated with the lack of progress toward my goals

Also, I really want to be in a supportive, romantic relationship with a man.  I have been daydreaming about one man in particular, especially when things are kind of overwhelming.  I need to blast myself out of doing that because it is not good for me to waste so much time and headspace over that.  When I am daydreaming excessively,  a good thing for me to do is to take notes from my daydreams.  I know that sounds weird, but I usually daydream about the things that are missing in my life.  Right now, I feel lonely, so daydreaming about this particular guy fills a void temporarily.  What I need to do is to see how I can alleviate feeling that way in real life.  In my daydreams, I am thin and well-dressed, so I need to start working on weight reduction.

I am going to relax with some magazines for the next couple of hours.  After that, I will probably call a friend.  Starbucks might be in my future tonight and/or tomorrow.  At some point, I need to make some plans and follow through on them.  I almost forgot the most important thing-quiet time with my Heavenly Father!

Change your clothes, change your life?

I did some online browsing at clothes yesterday.  I would really like to update my wardrobe some so that I can look as nice as I can right now, even being obese.  I will see how to make this happen, because improving my appearance can have a positive impact on other seemingly unrelated areas of my life.

Time to Put Faith in Action

There are changes that I want\need to make in my life.  The ones that I am focused on for the rest of this year are for:

*physical health (weight reduction)
*career change (increase work satisfaction and pay)
*business relaunch

In order to carry these out, I have to incorporate spiritual and personal development into my day as well.

As is often the case when trying to do something productive, I have become aware of distractions.  One of the biggest distractions is the loneliness and emptiness that I feel.  Other distractions are tiredness, laziness, and some degree of self-loathing.

Aside from prayer, I have to focus on attaining what I want and need.  I guess another way to address it would be to see what I can do to lessen or eliminate this loneliness/emptiness.  What I cannot do is allow it to hinder me from making progress.

I also have to make sure to support myself spiritually and emotionally while I make these changes.  I will make out a rough draft of a plan for that and I will flesh it out later.  Right now, I have some desire and a little momentum built up to begin to usher in some of these changes and I will take advantage of it right now.